I'm stitching, I'm knitting but I can't seem to get back into the swing of taking photos and blogging about it.
This is a little cardigan I knitted for Jacob before he was born, put in a drawer and forgot about until I was having a sort out. All I had to to was sew on the buttons.
I've started to pack some quick knitting into my bag on the day's I pick Oliver up from school. I had quite a collection of cotton waiting to be made into dishcloths, perfect quick portable, no brain power needed knitting :-)
I told you last time how I had arranged care twice a day for my mum, she was put on an emergency care package for six weeks, here in the UK that first six weeks of care is free, after that there is another assessment to see if you are still in need of that care, if you are, then you are required to contribute towards the cost of care provided, but if they decide that you are managing, then the care is stopped.
Mum had her assessment yesterday afternoon and the conclusion was that she was able to look after herself and the care would stop the next day. Mum is not entirely happy, but we have been telling her that unless she makes use of the care offered it would be taken away. She will not let them wash or dress her, she was still doing that herself before they came in the morning, (sometimes no one arrived until 10AM and she will not sit around in her nightclothes until that time), but like the assessor said, they encourage independence and if she could dress herself, great, if she couldn't then she would wait until the carer came in. Some day they were only there 10 minutes each visit and made mum a cup of tea and warmed her lunch up at dinner time. I can quite understand why they have stopped the care, it would be a very expensive cup of tea!
We can of course go down the route of private carers, if we chose that option we could be more certain of the times they would visit, but again, mum would not allow them to wash and dress her so it would be an even more expensive cup of tea!
What to do! I can totally understand that mum does not want a stranger washing and dressing her, on the other hand I also agree that if she is doing these things herself then she is showing that she does not need the care. That's not to say she doesn't struggle, she does, but even if it takes her half an hour to get dressed, she can do it.
We all help with meals and she has two meals a week delivered but I am in the process of getting her to order more meals to be delivered so that she can have something hot at lunchtime too, that way she won't have to bother doing something herself. It's all very stressful and mum seems to be getting more confused the more things are in place, we have noticed recently that her short term memory is not what is used to be, she has made hard work of her tablets being sorted into a blister pack, honestly, it's such a simple way of doing it and I'm not sure if she genuinely forgets how it works when I've gone or she is not paying attention because she doesn't want to do it that way. It's worrying because there were three tablets missing from the tea time section on Wednesday and she didn't know where they had gone! She was adamant that she had not taken them, but who knows.
Sorry to go on about this, I know that there are many of you in a very similar situation and know how hard it is trying to get someone to change the way they do things and work with new ideas so that it helps all concerned, it's taking up a lot of my time and brain space at the moment, I hope things will settle in to a better routine very soon, for all our sanity, lol.
See you soon, take care
See you soon, take care