Sunday, 28 November 2021

Mum

 I'm so very sad to tell you that my mum passed away in the early hours of Thursday 25th November. 

As you know mum went into respite care a few weeks ago following a fall and a rapid decline in her mobility.  Whilst in the care home it became clear that she wasn't going to regain even the limited mobility she had had previously and there was talk of her remaining in the care home where she could have round the clock care, although it was a big change for her she did realise that she needed more care than we could safely provide for her at home.   

The week before she went into respite she had been assessed and diagnosed with both Alzheimer's and vascular dementia, although this was still in the early stages, there were days when she got very confused and mixed up, it was hard to see her memory getting worse.

The photo below was taken about 5 years ago at my niece's wedding.

We are grateful that when the end came she was not in pain.  For a good few days she had kept saying that she was so tired, and when she was put to bed on Wednesday night she became unresponsive a few hours later.  She never fully regained consciousness, only occasionally opening her eyes but not acknowledging or speaking to us.  

In life she was a quiet person who got on with things and didn't want drama, so it was no surprise that when she passed it was quietly, without fuss.  We were with her the whole time, holding her hands and talking to her.  I'd like to think that she knew she was not alone and that we were there.

28th August 1928 - 25th November 2021

Good night, God bless mum

-X-

28 comments:

Gill said...

So sorry to hear about your Mum, its never easy losing your Mum. At least you were with her to the end. Sending hugs.

Cath said...

So very sorry for your loss. Take care

Jan said...

I'm so sorry for your loss.

busybusybeejay said...

So sorry to read this.
Barbara

Shrimpton and Perfect said...

Such sad news. It does sound like she had a gentle passing with her family around her, which would be the best thing for her. Very hard for you, I know. Sending you all my best wishes. Jean

Sooze said...

It's so hard to lose a parent, expected or not. I'm so sorry.

Katrina said...

I am very sorry for your loss of your Mum, thinking of you and your family xx

Vickie said...

Oh Dear Maggie, I am so very sorry. What a blessing she was not in pain and she had a gentle passing. God bless you all at this most difficult time.

Jeannieuk said...

I’m so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you x

Dee said...

I am so sorry for your loss. May your happy memories of your mom help you through this difficult time. Dee

Devon Mum said...

So sorry for your loss and my thoughts are with you and your family xx

Jo said...

I'm so sorry. It's such a hard thing to lose a parent but in time you can take comfort that she went without pain and that you were by her side, and yes, I'm sure she'll have known you were there. Sending hugs your way xx

Poppypatchwork said...

Sending best wishes, losing any parent is hard, but your mum, glad you were all together in her final moments, sending hugs xxx

Mary - Lecoeurceltique said...

Maggie, I'm sorry to read of the death of your mum. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

linda said...

I'm so sorry to hear this sad news Maggie, sending my deepest condolences. xx

Debi said...

So sorry to hear about your mum's passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family..

Carol said...

I'm so very sorry, Maggie... losing a mom is so difficult no matter her age. She and my mom were the same age when they passed. They did live nice long lives, but like your mom, mine was beginning to show signs of dementia and I am relieved she didn't travel very far down that path. Your mom died a peaceful death and I know that gives you comfort. Thank goodness you were able to be with her until the end. I'm sure she knew you were with her. Sending a big hug and my sincere condolences your way. ♥

Heritage Hall said...

My sympathy and condolences on the loss of your lovely
Mum. What a blessing she passed without pain and in a
state of serenity. Cherish the precious memories I
feel she has left you and yours and honor her memory
by living the life she hoped for you.

Miriam said...

Condolences Maggie, my prayer for her and you all,
Miriam

Lowcarb team member said...

I am so sorry for your loss.
You are in my thoughts.
God bless.

All the best Jan

Jackie said...

I am so sorry that you have lost a cherished member of your family. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

God bless.

butterfly said...

Oh Maggie I am so sorry , it's so sad.
My dad had the same but he would fight it but , they never get better and it is so sad .
My heart goes out to you.

Terri said...

So sorry for your loss! Hugs and prayers!

Jules said...

I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending love. Xx

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Sandy said...

So very sorry for your loss. It sounds like she had a peaceful transition. I can relate, we lost Dad, 95 years old in August. He too was in a care facility. He had been at the assisted living center for close to 3 years after too many falls at home. I hope you have many warm memories. Was out blog walking this am and spotted you on a mutual friends blog, so thought I'd pop in.

Clare-Aimetu said...

I'm so sorry Maggie to read of your Mum's passing. Prayers and thoughts with you all x x

Chris said...

Thats very sad for you but lovely to hear she had all of you around her and such a peaceful passing.. Blessings and prayers and love.